Feeling Loved

Valentine’s Day is right around the corner. If you have gone through a divorce or are in the process of ending your marriage, this may be a dreaded day. What we notice most about people who do well during their mediation and post divorce, is that they take care of themselves. Love yourself! How do you do that? Here are some tips to help you through this popular hallmark holiday:
  • Give something to yourself – There is nothing wrong with treating yourself to something nice sometimes. We are most responsible for taking care of ourselves first. Whether you go out for a golf game, spa day, or a movie matinee, being extra kind to yourself is important.
  • Surround yourself with love – Plan something with friends or family that care about you. If you have kids, take them out for a Valentine’s day date. Remind yourself that while one relationship might have fallen apart, there are still some good ones left in your life.
  • Give back – Others are alone during this time. Volunteer to visit someone in a nursing home, a homeless shelter, or with kids. Being around others and giving back can be a great cure all for the Valentine’s Day blues.

You have a choice to become angry,despondent or negative OR you can take something painful and celebrate some of the small joys in your life.