Is it a Good Idea to Date During My Divorce?

You and your spouse are moving forward with a divorce and, while the end of your marriage has not been finalized, you essentially feel like it is over. You might think now is the right time to embark on this new chapter in your life and to re-enter the dating pool to find a new partner, but doing so before the divorce decree is signed can be a major mistake for a variety of reasons. In fact, dating before your marriage is officially over might even have an impact on the outcome of your divorce settlement.

Here are some reasons why it would be wise to hold off on dating until your divorce is finalized:

  • Even if the decision to divorce was mutual, having a new partner or a very active dating life can create a lot of resentment in your spouse. He or she might become difficult during divorce negotiations and prolong the process by fighting tooth and nail for even the most insignificant things. This will not only be frustrating and stressful, but more costly.
  • If you share children with your spouse, they are probably having a hard time coping with this drastic change and, if you add a new partner to the mix, it will only make things worse. They might choose not to see you and, if it also happens that your new partner has a shady or criminal past, the courts might decide that it would not be in the best interests of the children for you to have custody. Do not alienate your children by dating in the middle of a divorce.
  • Divorce is also an emotional experience and, if you are earnestly hoping to begin a new relationship, you are going to need to take some time to process your separation. It might make you feel better to have someone new in your life, but it is not likely to last if you are not emotionally ready for it. Take some time to understand what you really want out of a new relationship to set the right foundation for your new romantic future.

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If you and your spouse have decided to move forward with a divorce, Alternative Divorce Solutions can help transform this contentious process legal process into a collaborative one that minimizes friction. Instead of subjecting your family’s future to the discretion of a judge, our approach will allow you to remain in control of the happiness and stability of your family.

Contact us today at (949) 558-2624 to schedule a free consultation with a knowledgeable member of our team.