The Reasons Marriages End
Sometimes the relationship you once thought of as “only of your dreams” unfortunately turns out to be something different than what you expected. It is never easy to see a marriage dissolve, and it can feel worse when it’s happening to you. You may wonder where things went wrong or what could have been done to fix the situation.
The reality is that sometimes marriages simply end, and there can be a number of different reasons why. Here are some of the more common reasons why couples get divorced:
Incompatibility
Early on in a relationship, you may feel that you and your spouse have so much in common that nothing could ever come between you. As you progress through your relationship and the rush of emotions you had early on begins to fade, you may begin to see that those commonalities are actually rather large differences.
Sometimes couples simply drift apart from each other; the similarities they once shared are no longer common to both of them. These could be as simple as shared activities to more complex issues such as political views or religious beliefs.
Money
Perhaps one of the issues that couples fight about is money and how to handle it. One spouse may be a big saver while the other prefers to spend, or there may be specific issues that arise related to money that can cause a disagreement. Regardless of the specifics, disagreements about money are one of the leading causes of couples getting divorced.
Infidelity
Unfortunately, some spouses damage their relationship by engaging in an extramarital affair. Such an act can seriously harm the amount of trust in the relationship, sometimes to a point where the relationship is significantly damaged. In these situations, as difficult as they can be, many couples choose to try to work through their differences by attending counseling sessions or getting other help; sometimes, however, the work put in does not lead to saving the relationship.
Lack of Communication
While some couples might say that this means that all conversations lead to an argument, this is not always the case. It’s possible that this lack of communication means that each person has some sort of hesitation about sharing more personal details about how they are feeling or thinking. An argument might be a visible symptom of a deeper problem that needs to be resolved.
Lack of Intimacy
Physical intimacy is certainly important and often plays a role in a couple’s relationship, intimacy can go deeper than that. Intimacy refers to the depth of a relationship between two people and how much each person shares with one another about their lives. At first, a couple might have a great deal of trust for each other to where they are more open to sharing deeper parts of themselves; as time goes on, however, that intimacy may dwindle, and this can lead to divorce.
Abuse or Addiction
Negative behaviors present in a relationship can lead to that relationship dissolving. It’s common to see situations where one partner is abusive toward the other or is addicted to drugs, alcohol, or something else that causes harm to the relationship. These negative behaviors can damage a relationship to a point where there is no other option than to end the marriage altogether.
Choose the Peaceful Route In the Midst of Difficulty
Getting a divorce is a big decision that requires careful thought, and even when you are certain of the direction you should go, you may feel scared or sad about the prospects ahead of you. Fortunately, there is a way of resolving your divorce in a more peaceful method. Mediation works, and the team at Alternative Divorce Solutions is ready to show you what we mean. Our team of mediators is ready to help you work through your divorce with your spouse to come to a solution that works for you and puts you in control of your future.
Learn more about mediation by calling our office at 949-368-2121 or by visiting our website.